Sunday, May 31, 2009

Nag, nag, nag...


"Until the day I die, I promise, I won't change...so you better give up :)"

Seriously thinking why do people resist to change ? Why don't children like their parents constantly telling them what to do, why don't guys want their gals invariably reminding them what not to do, why don't husbands like their wives regularly questioning them on what they are doing ?
Who are you going with ? 
What are you going to do ? 
Where are you going ? 
When are you going to come back ? 
Why are you going ? 
How are you going to return ?
Coz while in business, this rule of 6W's is called information-gathering; in life, it is called nagging!

It is natural for parents to be concerned about their loved ones, and talk about their chores and outside activities. But nobody likes a benevolent dictator! Non-stop complaining is also a form of criticism. Whining or rebukes are not healthy ways of imbibing good habits in children, instead that will turn them deaf-ear.

So how does one bring about a positive change? Well, right thing, told at the right time, in the right tone, using the right language - can make all the difference. Telling a child "I should never expect you to do your homework properly" will cause rebellion; and telling him "You should do your homework properly to come out with flying colors in the exam" will give encouragement. A child's mind is soft like clay: if molded with fear and ridicule it turns hostile; if molded with tolerance and praises, it turns docile! 
Children Learn What They Live - Dorothy L. Law
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn . . .
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight . . .
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive . . .
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself . . .
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy . . .
If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt . . .
BUT
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .
If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative . . .
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love . . .
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .
If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . .


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